The Hero's Spouse

Hope for marriages in Midlife Crisis


What is Coaching?

First, let’s understand what coaching is not. Coaching is not therapy. In coaching we focus on the present with a look toward the future and we focus on solutions. What’s going on now? We may look to the past to uncover your successes so you can understand how you have the skills and experience to determine the best solutions, but our focus is the present. You’ve done what works before! That means you’re the expert on you.

Important Questions

  • What do you want?
  • Why—what’s motivating you?
  • What are your values?
  • What are your emotions in this situation? 
  • What are the obstacles in your way?

What is Coaching for Moving Forward Spouses?

Typically, people come to me for answers; they want to ask me questions about Midlife Crisis and help them to understand their specific MLC situation and they want to understand what I did personally in my marriage to get through my husbands’ Midlife Crisis to a reconciled marriage. This means that my coaching is integrated with mentoring and teaching.

  1. Inform and Raise Awareness
  2. Make decisions and Set Goals
  3. Plans of Actions based on goals and decisions

I typically begin with a Directed approach to coaching which means I will begin by raising your awareness by helping you understand what Midlife Crisis is and develop an understanding of the context of the specific Midlife Crisis you are dealing with. I offer options, solutions, tools and techniques for you to consider and apply.
It's important that we move toward Non-Directive Coaching where I can help you to uncover the best options and solutions to fit your situation. Raising Awareness continues as you begin to take over and direct yourself. Asking yourself important personal questions can guide you to uncovering what you need to do to heal, grow and progress toward solutions that fit your needs.
My goal in coaching you is to provide you with a foundational understanding of Midlife Crisis and your specific situation so that you determine the best solutions and plans of actions. The goal is that you gain an awareness of your successes, strengths, challenges and options and how you can apply them toward designing a plan of action. I’m simply a guide helping you to build your own answers, solutions and goals from your resources and experience.

How it Works

We can meet in a Zoom meeting room--you don't need an account or I can call your phone from my Skype and to you it will just be as though we are talking on the phone. Each session is 60 minutes.

Office Hours
Pacific/Western Timezone

Monday - Friday am and pm  hours (Pacific Time Zone). Holidays may have limited hours--typically only a few afternoons when my husband is off work for the kids. When you select your timezone, the calendar will appear and you can view the available times by clicking on the date.
Cost: $125.00 USD

What will my receipt/statement say?

Some of you may be concerned that your MLCer may see a suspicious statement on your credit or bank statement. The company name does not refer to midlife crisis or this website. I use a neutral name which I will not post here where snooping spouses can find it. But please be assured that I am doing my best to protect your transactions from MLCer suspicion.

I am not a therapist; I have no training in counseling. I offer no guarantees with my coaching-advice. What I am is an experienced Stander who is in a reconciled marriage. I have a Master of Fine Arts in Writing.

Though there are patterns of similarity, each person is different. I would like to guarantee that whether your spouse returns or not, you will be successful. But I cannot say what you will or will not choose, but I will promise that you can be successful; the choice is your own. I offer generalities, referencing what worked for me or others whom I have assisted. Standing is not an easy path. The choice to Stand may be simple, but the actions are challenging. Midlife Crisis is your spouse's journey; embrace your own journey and you will reap the rewards.

How to Schedule Coaching

Use the purple form below to schedule coaching.
 The calendar will not show up until you enter your time zone!

  1. Select whether you want phone coaching or Zoom.
  2. Enter your timezone.
  3. Choose a date and time and submit.
    You will be taken to an intake form.
  4. Complete the intake questions.
  5. Use the Payment button at the bottom of the intake to make your payment.
    The system will send you a confirmation of your appointment.
    If you selected Zoom, the confirmation email will have a link to our session.
    If you selected a phone session, I'll call you at the scheduled time. Please make sure your phone is not blocked to unknown callers. I will be calling from Skype and not a phone.